Being a LOTUS

Time & situation won't be the same as before neither will people...It's true that nothing will stay for long but life has taught me a very good thing...Whatever be the situation, no matter how rudely people behave or they take for granted just remember you don't have to justify your position because true people will never ask for any justification & will always be with you..Even if you walk alone, just walk, if you want to sit down & cry you can cry, want to sing then just sing or dance as if no one is watching you, Just never lose your charm & morals. Because that whats makes you unique. And just remember no matter who you are, wherever you are, no mater how worse the situation is just remember the Almighty, have faith & be yourself. Try to sympathise, empathise & most important try to bring a smile on others face. For me happiness is not limited to iphone, tablet, bid mansons, gold etc. When a baby hold your finger, when you see the sun rise, when you smell a flower, when you soak your feets in the river, when you play with your pet, when you silently talk to the Lord,  when you enjoy a family dinner, when you see your kid walk for the first time, the joy a kid feels when he/she sees his/her daddy back from the army, they joy of being a mother/father.......all these feelings are just priceless.... I know sometimes it's not at ll easy to stay strong all the time & just fake a smile behind those tears. Sit down, talk to the Lord, tell the Lord about your sorrows, cry, ask for forgiveness. Trust me you will feel a bit light. Your tears can only be valued by the Lord or by someone whom Lord has saved for you.... And no matter what happens don't lose your fragrance . Remember a lotus only blooms in a swamp.....

Shakha & Pola ( Conch Bangle)

Shakha & Pola ( Auspicious Conch Jewellery) : Bengali wedding special:

Shakha & Pola are pairs of conch shell specially Shakha the white bangle is made of conch shell, crafted & polished out of conch. Shakha & Pola are a symbol of a married woman. This custom is most popular in eastern part of India.
In west bengal according to the bengali culture the Shakha & pola has a great significance. Before the actual bengali marriage day in the wee hours of very day, married women perform ritual called Dodhi Mangal in which they soak bangles made with shells in turmeric mixed water. Seven married women put shankha pola into bride’s hands. It symbolizes as seven forms of Goddess. According to the folk stories it is believed that this shankha pola custom belongs to poor fishermen because they can’t afford expensive jewelries. The bride has to wear Pola between Shankha or iron metal bangles. It is said that the iron bangle provides firmity to the relation & helps to balance the positive & negative power.

According to me this custom is another golden page of a married life. Shakha & pola are nature's blessing to the married woman. It's a naturally made shell just needs to be carved with care & patience. The Shakha though seems to be firm may get brittle if handled carelessly. Similarly in a married life the bride needs to make sure that she fulfils her responsibility without losing her charm, sensitivity & morals accompanied with auspicious thinking.
It's not mere a decor item but it's a proud for a married woman.
Traditionally whenever a married woman applied vermilion/sindur on her forehead as a symbol of being married she also applies a little vermillion on the left shakha.
Though nowadays Shakha & pola are quite expensive & not that cheap as it was before but still this wonderful tradition goes on without any hindrance.

Shubho Drishti

Bengali Wedding Special:

SHUBO DRISHTI: (Auspicious sight)

In bengali before the bride & the groom are allowed to see each other, a ritual is followed called Shubo Drishti. The bride holds a pair of betel leaf in front of her eyes. Once the priest who conducts the marriage allows them to see each other the bride removes the betel leaf & the first sight fells upon her groom. they both are supposed to stare for a couple of seconds. this ritual is accompanied by the auspicious "Ullur" & by blowing the conch shell by the audience. According to me this ritual is very auspicious & is the first step of the new journey. This ritual shows that when both the souls will be united they will only care , love & respect each other. The first glance of their respective partners indeed germinates the seed of love & gradually along with the rituals it gets developed & through the trust, care & respect the love will be nurtured in the future !!

Pretence

Again I stand bare foot on the cold floor chilled by the soft pre-winter winds....Every night I lock my room's door & quietly stand in the balcony staring the night sky though can't see many stars due to the dam city lights..... still just to make a wish I somehow manage to look for a star....I close my eye & after humming some chants I make a wish & slowly open my eye to catch a last glimpse of the star.... Brrr it sure is cold today but something makes it more chilly...no no it's not the poor wind.... it's the feeling of being betrayed, being not wanted etc etc.... Pain now plays a crucial part in my life....Yes you heard it correctly. ... PAIN ....A feeling which nobody wants to feel ever, but for me it has been haunting since quite a long time....Everyday the thing which act as a witness of my misery & unstable state of mind.... which is my pillow...... Standing in the balcony I remember the promises made by the people claiming to be with you forever are now nowhere to be seen.... Even if I tried to make an attempt they just preach again with some scholastic quotes again making a fake promise to return back but I know how patiently I waited for things come true....Someday ago one of them asked "Are you still single ?" I was like obviously I am.... I have been so unfortunate to have a friend & on top of that getting a mate to mingle is like adding fuel to the fire.... but with a fake smile I delivered a reply , I said "Not that fortunate " ...... I know you must have heard & felt this numerous times but still I would say....Whenever I feel sad & if someone comes & asks Are u ok ? Although I will say "Yes, m perfectly fine" & that too with a fake smile I will still wish for the other person to look into my eyes , grab my shoulder & say "No You are not &I won't leave until you reveal the truth" ......
Anyways months passed, years passed I am still standing the place where they left me....tears have dried, hopes have died....The place where it used to be spring has been overtaken by the cold harsh weather.....The wind whispers, they say "You are all by yourself, the promises will remain unfulfilled, it was never meant for you" Accepting these facts I close my eyes, a tear trickles down & get merged with the darkness where I dwell.....

Just feel the breeze... soft cool air passes around.... takes away the pain & makes one numb for a moment... This breeze reminds me how easy life can be if we stop worrying about silly things..let the prejudice & assumptions take a back seat.... If you think you need someone to complete you then let me tell yiu dear you are wrong...you are a bundle of joy.... maybe a source of inspiration for others.... you know what you need someone who accepts you completely. ... Just feel the breeze outside it whispers " Everything will be fine" ...